My boyfriend and me have been together for nearly a year now and he said its time that I lose my virginity to him. In a way I feel that I'm ready but I'm not really sure yet. He said that if I loved him I would lose it to him and he wants to have sex with me so he can show how much he loves me. I don't know whether to do it or not. Help me, I don't know what to do.

Doctor Don't Go There Says:

"If your boyfriend really loved you he wouldn't try and pressure you into doing anything you have doubts about. If you having doubts that would indicate that you are not ready to embark on a sexual relationship.   Communication is key to a good relationship and if you are unable to talk your boyfriend about your feelings about having sex then what would you do if something went wrong, or how would you be able to talk about contraception or sexually transmitted infections?   Would you be able to speak to him or would you be too embarrassed?

Deciding to have a sexual relationship with someone is a serious decision and it is your decision and no one else's.   Whatever choice you make has to be the right choice for you.   You will be the one who has deal with the consequences of your actions not anyone else.

Losing your virginity is a big thing and you're going to remember it for the rest of your life so think about whether this is what you really want and if you are ready for it.    If you want you can come down to any of the 4YP services and have a chat about your situation, in confidence with a 4YP worker."

Remember the legal age of consent is 16.

I recently had sex with a boy that I thought I loved. We were going out for a month and everything was good. He used to tell me he loved me but after I had sex with him he stopped speaking to me as much and broke up with me a week later. I feel really hurt but when I try and phone him to ask what happened he says he's busy and he'll phone me back but he never does. Why is he doing this to me? What should I do?

Upset, N17

Doctor Don't Go There Says:

"What you must remember is that everyone makes choices, and all we can do is learn from them and not blame ourselves for anything negative that may come out of that choice.   None of this your fault, boys often say things that they don't mean to get what they want, sadly it sounds like your guy is one of those types of people.   

Don't let this experience put you off relationships and men.   Not every man is like this man; just make sure that you are clear about what each other's intentions are before entering into on a relationship of any kind.

What you need to do is pick yourself up and move on and make sure the next time you a embark sexual relationship you know what it is that you want and what the other person wants.   Look to the future, go out, have fun, love yourself and acknowledge that you are very special person that deserves to be treated well.

If you want you can come down to any of the 4YP services and have a chat about your situation, in confidence with a 4YP worker."

Recently my boyfriend and me decided to have sex and I lost my virginity to him. At the time it felt right but now I'm having my doubts. He assured me that I couldn't get pregnant, as it was my first time so we didn't use any contraception. I think I might be pregnant as my period is 2 weeks late and don't know how to break the news to my mum. She didn't even know I had a boyfriend! Please help I don't know what to do!

Female, 15, N18

Doctor Don't Go There Says:

"You should go to a 4YP Drop-in Session, 4YP Clinic, your GP or family planning clinic for a free pregnancy test.   Or you can buy a test from a pharmacy and do the test yourself.   I would recommend that you visit a 4YP Drop-In Session or clinic for a free test, there will be someone there that you can talk to about the relationship with your boyfriend, contraception, sexually transmitted infections and advice you how to speak to your mum.

You've had unprotected sex which also puts you at risk of catching a sexually transmitted infection so my advice would be to visit a 4YP clinic for a full sexual health screen.